I don’t know about you, but I have a really hard time saying “no”.
When I went to counseling a few years back, the first thing my counselor said to me was that I needed to learn how to set healthy boundaries in my life.
Well I’m still a work in progress, and probably always will be, but I am getting a bit better as each situation arises.
Saying no brings guilt for me. Yet what I have come to realize is that sometimes it is truly necessary…to say “no” than to always speak a continual yes.
When we say yes to everything, we can become angry, hurt, and feel like we’re being taken advantage of. Others will always assume a yes from us and depend on that.
Yet, many times a “no” is the best answer for both parties involved, whether they see it as such or not.
The biggest red flag for me, is when that “yes” brings trouble to my heart. The times I become bitter, resentful, and overwhelmed are the times I now know that I need to set a boundary.
How do I know when to truly say no? I take it to God and ask for his wisdom and understanding, and wait for peace in my heart, which is His answer, before I react in a no or a yes.
Therefore, this week’s Calling is to take a good look at your life to see where you need to set a boundary or two. Remember that boundaries aren’t walls we put up to completely stop something, but instead are bridges to cross over to enable change to bring something better.
Here is the book that I read to understand boundaries more clearly. It is a great tool to use to gain a healthy insight to the necessity of boundaries and guide you through the process.
May you set a needed and healthy boundary in your life this week. Ask God to show you where you need to do so, and trust Him to help you take that first step.
If you missed my inspiration “When it’s “okay” to Walk Away”, check it out for a helpful perspective on this very subject.
Live Lovingly Blessed Friends.