Do you ever wonder why people say they will… and then do not? Or ask yourself why you don’t when you as well, say you will? Whether to yourself or others, why are you not committed in a stronger way to make a difference?
I really struggle in this in many ways, for it brings up so many questions, assumptions, and a whirlwind of feelings. So today I spent my time with God, asking for new understanding and here is how I see it.
Let’s begin with the various “why not’s” in all the things we need to ask ourselves.
Why don’t you exercise, save money, change that thing about yourself that you know you need to or take the first step to make something better?
Why don’t you make an actual plan that comes to fruition, when you say let’s “do” it, but then take no further steps to make it become a reality?
Why do you ignore texts, emails and phone calls from others, when it’s so easy, convenient and only takes a minute to respond?
In the world today, there really is no excuse to not reach out or respond to others. With texting especially, we can shoot out a message in a matter of seconds. Everyone looks when they see that little number light up next to the message icon, it’s just what we do as curious human beings, right?
Yet a message can go unanswered for days or get lost in forever sometimes. A plan can easily be forgotten with no awareness to how that affects another person’s life.
And I have to wonder why…are we “so” busy that we can’t take that moment to answer or do what we promised, so as not to leave someone hanging out there to wonder why they are being ignored? Wondering if they just don’t matter, aren’t a priority, or just easily forgotten… and how sad is that? Such a small effort taken can bless a life more than you know.
I think we get selfishly distracted in our “busyness” with our own plans and priorities, never stopping to think how we are affecting someone else’s life when we choose to “not”. Yet it is through the people that God brings into our lives where He uses each of us to be the blessing we…or they…need today.
As for the things we don’t take action in, in our own lives to grow and change for the better, well I believe most of that unwillingness is based on fear. Afraid of all the how’s, what if’s, I cant’s, it’s too hard and impossible.
We spend more time telling ourselves all the reasons we can’t, leaving no room in our brains for all the reasons we can, by masking our fears with illogical excuses and defenses.
I don’t have time to work out, I don’t have extra money to save, change is hard or I’m too tired and what good would it do anyway.
But if we all have so much time to spend thinking of and making up all of these excuses, do we not have time to take the steps to actually begin that something better? Of course we do!
The thirty seconds or so to respond to another’s message… you have time for that.
Saving one dollar a week if that’s all you can give up…yes you can.
Doing some form of exercise even if it’s only ten minutes… you have time. And the amazing thing about exercise is once you begin you will find yourself turning those ten minutes into more.
All the things you said you will, but haven’t yet…make a list, begin doing them and then checking them off. Nothing feels better than accomplishing your intentions and fulfilling those commitments and promises.
You see, life is an opportunity of “doings”, not an existence of “dont’s”! Everything we do has a snowball effect in the lives of others as well as our own, in ways we may not always see or comprehend.
God is the lamp and we are here to share the light He shines upon us to one another, in our choices, actions and all we choose to “do”, in order to live life in the way that He intended. By setting good examples we can inspire others, by being accountable in our decisions we build our characters, and by “doing” instead of not taking action, we make life on earth a brighter place for everyone.
Don’t make excuses, don’t put things off, don’t ignore others or tell yourself your too busy or you can’t. Do pay attention, do look around, do care enough to “do” that something that will make all the difference.
It is in the “doing” that you will find joyful fulfillment in every part of your life…and who wouldn’t want that!